The Three Stages Of Midlife Crisis
Imagine you're in the throes of a midlife crisis. It might creep up on you slowly, like a quiet whisper, or it might hit you like a ton of bricks. You feel depressed, burned out, anxious about work, or maybe your marriage is on the rocks. It could be health issues or the loss of a parent. Whatever it is, it's a wake-up call.
At first, people around you might brush it off, saying it's just a phase, you need a vacation, or your boss is the problem. You try all the usual fixes – therapy, counseling, maybe even a change of scenery – but nothing seems to work. It takes years to realize that you're not dealing with a temporary funk; you're in the midst of a full-blown midlife crisis.
This is the first stage: recognition.
It's more than just fixing things with a quick solution. It's existential; it's about who you are, who you want to be, and what legacy you want to leave behind. You've got maybe 30 or 40 years left, and you're asking yourself, "What's my purpose? What's my calling?"
Then comes the second stage - finding your new purpose.
It's a deep dive into your soul, an identity crisis. You might attend workshops, seek therapy or coaching, and explore various avenues. This stage can also take years as you refine your goals and distill your true self.
The third stage is embodying what you've discovered.
Maybe you've realized you want to switch careers, start a project, or move to another country. The challenge now is practical – how to make it happen. You may need certification, training, budget, or the skills to prove that you're not just a newbie but a pro in your new direction.
Changing from an accountant to a carpenter, for instance, means convincing people that you're serious and capable. It can take time to change their perception. Having a mentor can be invaluable during this phase.
While this journey might take years, it's an exciting ride filled with curiosity and self-discovery. It has its challenges, but suffering shouldn't be part of the equation. Embrace the hardships with a positive, optimistic attitude, and remember that you're working toward your goals.
Recognize which stage you're in and push forward. Don't get stuck in any one phase. This midlife crisis is your opportunity to transform and soar like a butterfly emerging from its cocoon. It may not be easy, but it's an adventure worth taking.
Good luck on your journey!